PTP2015 – Scotty Sparks – Your Wedding Gift. Understanding the Bounds of Sexuality in a Culture with No Rules.

Most of you are not married, but some day you may be, and will want to be.

We live in a society where the bounds of sexuality are not godly, they are proclaiming “no rules.”

Satan does not want you to have a happy home.  He wants to do anything He can to harm and destroy your home.

What you bring to your marriage “your wedding gift” will be determined by what you do now.

The world says, “anything goes,” but one day you’re going to get married, and if you want your home to be all that it can be, you’ve got to reign yourself in and live in accordance with God’s will.

We look at the world and sexuality with no rules is everywhere.   You cannot walk down the hallways of the mall without seeing women with almost no clothing on.

We live in a world gone wrong.

5 things that begin with the letter “D” that will help you bring to your wedding day a wedding gift of sexual purity.

6 Scriptures to give you these 5 things to encourage you and help you as you face this culture that is so wrong.

I tried to read these 6 scriptures almost every day.  For sure weekly, I try to read these Scriptures multiple times every week.  The battle doesn’t stop when you get married.

5 Words:

  1. Determination
  2. Direction
  3. Do-able
  4. Difficulty
  5. Draw
  6. (Leading to making a) Difference (in your life)


Job 31

Summary of Job’s story.

Some friends of Job come to comfort him and claim that he is a bad guy, an evil person.

He was forced into a position where he had to defend himself against their accusations.

As he is speaking, he presents some ways he knows he has lived the way God wanted him to live.

“I have made a covenant with my eyes;
how then could I gaze at a virgin?

(Job 31:1 ESV)

We need to learn that we have to be very careful how I look upon a woman/girl.

You’re going to see pretty girls, and that is okay, but Job said, “I’m not going to GAZE — focus on a females body for so long that I begin thinking things I shouldn’t think.

A covenant, determination, decision.

Find something else to see when you’re faced with

Illustration: You may not be able to stop a bird from landing on your head, but you can sure keep him from building a nest there.

You cannot always help what you see, but you can change where you’re looking.

Psalm 101:3

	I will not set before my eyes
		anything that is worthless.
	I hate the work of those who fall away;
		it shall not cling to me.

(Psalm 101:3 ESV)

We cannot always help what we see, but we can sure help what we WANT to see.

A God-given sexual drive is not sinful.

God presented the woman to the man and she was what he wanted.

There are lots of things you can do to help you safeguard yourself from the things of this world.  But you can override those programs.

Password: IHateGod

We’re going to live right in a world that is very very wrong.


Matthew 5:27 (intent)

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. For it is better that you lose one of your members than that your whole body go into hell.

(Matthew 5:27-30 ESV)

What direction am I taking with my thought-life?

Jesus says it is not just about the physical act of sexual immortality, Jesus makes it clear if this is the situation at which you have arrived, you didn’t get here all of sudden!

They have committed the actual physical act. But the act has taken place in the mind first.

Jesus doesn’t say if you look at a woman, you have sinned.  What lust is partially your intent!

Let me take a moment and encourage you that if you get into a sin problem with this, I encourage you to take care of this problem between you and God.  And might I also suggest that you take this problem to your dad and tell him.  And Dad, if they do, be sure you listen and do not blow up, and do not beat them up over it or they will never confide in you again.

If you want to get a handle on this behavior, if you want to have victory over this, if you want to get over this struggle, SECRECY will drive and fuel sinful behavior! Remove secrecy from the equation, or this behavior will grow and build up in your mind.

Find someone that you can confide in.  I know it is hard, and while it can be embarrassing and shameful, get a handle on it by confiding and trusting someone.

Do not take your thought-life the wrong direction.


1 Corinthians 10:12-13

Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall. No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.

(1 Corinthians 10:12-13 ESV)

If you think you can handle this on your own, do not be so self-absorbed that you set yourself up for a fall!

We can live in a world gone so wrong, and we can still live morally pure!

God is faithful!

He is right there with us, He knows our strengths, He knows our weaknesses.  He will not tempt us more than we can bear!

It is not beyond our ability to overcome.

We cannot excuse ourselves for giving into temptation and say, “no one ever…”

There are many who had temptations and messed up, but there were others who did it right.

Don’t think that because they didn’t have TV or the internet that they had no temptation.

God is faithful and with each temptation He will provide a way of escape.

Visualization of Satan throwing you in a room “sexual temptation” and locking the door from his side, but when you arrive in that room, God provides a window… and you can climb out the window and escape!


Galatians 5

But I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.
For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do. (Galatians 5:16-17 ESV)

The works of the flesh, first few about this area.

The ways of the flesh are opposed to the spiritual things.

They keep us from doing the things we want to do.

The more you put yourself in the word of God and the more you do to maintain sexual purity, the spiritual side of your life will work to keep you from giving into these temptations.

If we weight the scale toward spiritual matters, we can help to protect ourselves in this WINNABLE war.


You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, “He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us”? But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.

(James 4:4-10 ESV)

Humility is very important here.

Satan wants us to go a certain direction, but with a Determination and a Decision, we can go another direction!

Read these Scriptures in this word, read them every day!

If you will do this, I promise you, it will make a…


…In your life now, in your life when you get married, and in your life for all eternity.

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